Is she a true friend? ?
Posted Wednesday, February 17, 2010 by admin
I met my friend of 5 year from a business venture online. She lives in VA and I live in NY. She’s 39 ( she will never admit her age–and I’m supposedly one of her best friends) and I’m 33. Since we’ve known each other she’s been there to support me through my divorce, however when things go well for me I sense resentment or a hint of jealousy. She a very educated women with a law degree, but still lives with her parents never had a job in her life. She use to make money via the internet with marketing campaigns and now she had no source of income. The men don’t really find her attractive, but stay with her for other reasons…and some have even told her she’s not attractive.
Even though she’s been a good friend I feel like she’s only nice to me because she feels superior to me. She can never be wrong, she lies about stupid things and talks about her other friends when they aren’t on good terms. If she’s talking about them she’s talking about me behind my back as well…
I’ve come to the conclusion that this person is only in my life because (misery likes company). Will she resent me more when I get a better job/career and find someone descent in my life. All of her friends are also not very happy in there lives.
you have pretty much answered your own question. With my friends i want to know that they are happy for me when i manage to do something good like getting a new partner or Job, its sounds more like shes friends with you for the competition, i had a friend like that but i was tired of her always putting me down and trying to upstage me. Im not saying you should get rid of your friend, just consider if you want to be in this competition with your friend. Hope i Helped xx
I’ve been in a similar situation. I felt like she was a good friend and was there for me when I needed her. But at the same time, she was always negative and emotional. I’m still friends with her but I have to limit my time with her. We don’t talk or hang out as much. Your friend will probably resent you if you get a better job or found someone because she is miserable with her own life, but I wouldn’t let that bother you. Don’t set aside your goals or limit yourself in life because of your friends jealousy.
Sounds like she’s a convenient friend on her end.